The more self respect you have, the more others will respect you as well.
The amount of respect you have for yourself will determine the amount of respect you command from others.
What kind of treatment are you getting from the people in your life right now? Is it what you want? Is it what you deserve? Building your own self respect will change the amount of respect you receive from others.
The sixth step to building your personal value is to discover your self-respect.
Each step of building your personal value is enhanced by the steps before it.
It’s hard to respect yourself if you won’t first accept your impact andworth. It’s hard to respect yourself if you don’t build your esteem andconfidence. And if you were to refuse your self-love, it’s almost impossible to have any self-respect at all.
A big part ofself-respect is honoring your emotions.
Emotions are made up of thoughts and feelings. Every thought has a feeling and every feeling has a thought that goes along with it.
What you think about is very important. What you feel is very important also.
The more you value yourself, the more you will value your thoughts and feelings. Also, the more you value your thoughts and feelings, the more you will come to value yourself.
Paying attention to your own thoughts and feelings is the first step to self-respect.
Notice your reaction to situations that you tell yourself are ‘beyond your control’. Look to these emotions first.
Process your emotions.
As you pay attention to your thoughts and feelings, so you can express them appropriately. One way to do this is by writing them out on paper. Another is talking it out with someone.
Processing your emotions means to ‘put them all out on the table’ – so you can look them over, squeeze out the juice, and then let ‘em go.
Self-respect is about expression, not repression. Denying your emotions is a lack of respect for yourself.
Expressing how you think and feel doesn’t have to be confrontational or aggressive, but it does involve taking a stand for yourself.
Respect is developed and earned.
Self-respect is a product of self growth. As you grow and change and become ‘more of yourself’, your self-respect is automatically enhanced.
Self-respect is also a product of esteem, love and confidence. To increase your self-respect, begin the steps of building esteem, love and confidence.
Be responsible for your failures.
Failure comes from such things as a faulty belief system and not paying attention to the feedback your world is constantly giving you. Rather than punishing yourself, you can simply understand and forgive so they’re less likely to be repeated.
Also be responsible for you successes.
Don’t ignore or discount them. Study them instead. Honor them. Did you struggle? Was it luck? Was it chance? Was it fate? Did you have the right connections? Or was it just plain old hard work? Figure it out.
Nobody is really born with a silver spoon in their mouth. Success is always a product of the choices you make. You need to know why youdo what you do and why you did what you did.
Another way to build self-respect is to function with elegance.
Pay attention to what is happening in your life. Pay attention to the way you act and react and respond to the world around you. Ask yourself, “Is this what a self-respecting person would do?”
Develop your character.
Nobody is born with character. It can only be developed as you grow and mature.
Character refers to the frequency with which you apply your principles. You may have the principle to tell the truth, but if you go around lying to people, you will have no character.
As you clarify your principles, and then follow them, you will be building your character and your self-respect.
The intrinsic value of self respect is that it gives you a clearer perspective of yourself and the world around you.