Signs Of Depression In Men
Looking for signs of depression in men can be a difficult task.
The problem is, every outward sign of depression can easily be something else besides depression.
Most likely, you’ve already seen the commonly listed signs of depression for both men and women which you can read below:
- Depressed mood indicated by persistent sadness, anxiousness, or emptiness
- Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism or self-criticism
- Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
- Loss of interest in hobbies and activities and sex
- Decreased energy, fatigue, or tiredness
- Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions
- Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
- Appetite and weight loss, or overeating and weight gain
- Thoughts of death or suicide or actual suicide attempts
- Restlessness or irritability
- Persistent physical symptoms that don’t respond to treatment, such as headaches, chronic pain and digestive disorders
Perhaps you’re even familiar with the so-called signs of depression in men:
- Excess aggression or inappropriate rage
- Increased alcohol consumption or drug use
- Loss of sexual interest or engaging in sexual affairs
- Avoiding others (and responsibilities) or obsessive focus on distracting activities
- Increase of potentially dangerous activities
Both of these lists could describe quite a few things other than depression. To really understand whether you or someone you care about is depressed, you need to step back and look at the whole picture. And to start, you need to know what depression is and isn’t.
Now, I’m not a doctor, and I have no medical training whatsoever. I’m just some guy who healed his own depression (among other problems) and now I consult with others to help them heal their emotional pain.
The problem with the medical profession in general is that they’re too caught up in the gravitational pull of the pharmaceutical industry. One of the many symptoms of this pull involves the diagnosis and definition of depression. I won’t get into the debate of whether or not depression really is a disease caused by a chemical imbalance. You can read up on that elsewhere if you wish.
Instead, I’ll offer you my own theory, and solution, for depression.
Depression is caused by shutting down your emotions. The more you shut them down, the more depressed you end up. Here’s perhaps the most common way it goes:
You have angers – little angers – that you’re not allowed to express. For whatever reason, it wouldn’t be prudent to get angry.
“I can’t get mad.”
“I can’t get mad.”
“I can’t get mad.”
Like little straws, the repressed anger builds and builds over time. Eventually, one straw too many gets thrown on the camel’s back, and you wake up depressed. And that depression can last for decades if left to its own devices.
This is one example of how depression starts. I’ve written more about the causes of depression throughout this site.
Anyway, getting back to the big picture… when you’re looking for warning signs of depression in men, you might want to consider looking at the overall emotional health of the man in question.
- Does he express his emotions cleanly and clearly?
- Is he comfortable with his emotions?
- Can he talk about them – and especially, feel them – without melodrama, or without ‘clamming up’?
- In other words, is he intimate with his feelings?
These are the types of questions you want to ask yourself. These are the real warning signs.
And you also want to look at the man’s parents. Was his mother or father depressed? There may be genetic tendencies for depression. Again, that’s up for debate. More likely, it’s part of the heritage. Passed down from generation to generation the way shame is always passed down from generation to generation.
- Shame is also a warning sign of depression for both men and women.
Early childhood abuse can easily lead to shutting down your emotions – as a survival mechanism. But that same process of shutting down – that allows a child to survive – can also lead to depression in later life. This is very common.
Fortunately, there’s a way out of this mess. Depression can be a slippery slope and the earlier you take corrective action, the easier it will be to escape its crushing weight.
I’ve prepared several materials that will help you or the ones you love to either end depression, or avoid it in the first place before it manifests. It involves both an audio file meditation, as well as an instructional workbook that teaches an entirely new way of looking at your emotions.
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